Bible verses about love

People search for this from all over the map. Some are planning a wedding and want a reading. Some are in the middle of a hard patch in a relationship and need something to hold onto. Some are asking a bigger question — whether they are actually loved, by God or by anyone, at the level they need to be. What follows is a short list of the passages the Christian tradition has held up on both fronts: what love is, and where the Christian claim locates it.

A few terms first

For readers without the background:

• The Bible is the collection of Jewish and Christian sacred texts, split into the Old Testament (older, roughly 1500 BC to 400 BC) and the New Testament (first-century AD writings about Jesus and his followers).
• Jesus of Nazareth was a Jewish religious teacher who lived in first-century Palestine. The Christian claim is that he was also God in human form. He was executed by the Roman government around 30 AD and, on the Christian claim, was seen alive again three days later.
• Christ is a title, not a last name. It is the Greek translation of the Hebrew Mashiach (Messiah) — meaning the anointed one, the long-promised figure in the Jewish tradition. The earliest Christians used it as the standard way of referring to Jesus.
• The gospels are four short biographies of Jesus' life, written by his followers and now part of the New Testament.
• Paul was one of the earliest Christian writers; his letters make up a large portion of the New Testament.
• John was one of Jesus' closest followers; he wrote one of the gospels and three short letters in the New Testament.

What Christianity's tradition offers

The Christian tradition makes a specific claim about love: that its source is God, and that the shape of what love actually looks like was demonstrated in Jesus' life and death — not just described. The love the New Testament calls the highest kind is not romantic feeling. It is a chosen commitment to another person's good, sustained over time, at cost. The verses below are the ones people return to when they want to know what love is, or want to know they are loved.

The verses (with light commentary)

The definition passage — often read at weddings

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. — 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Paul wrote this in a letter to Christians in the Greek city of Corinth. It is probably the most-quoted passage on love in the world. Worth noticing what it does not say — it does not describe love as a feeling. It describes love as a set of behaviors, sustained over time. The Christian tradition has historically treated this passage as the working definition.

The claim that God is love

Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. — 1 John 4:7-8

John, one of Jesus' closest followers, wrote this in a short letter to early Christians. This is one of the most direct statements in the Bible about God's basic nature. The Christian claim is not just that God is loving; it is that love, as a category, is downstream from who God is.

The best-known verse in the Bible

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. — John 3:16

According to the gospel of John, Jesus said this in a nighttime conversation with a religious leader named Nicodemus. The Christian tradition has held this line up as the shortest possible summary of the entire Christian message — that God's love was expressed by sending Jesus, that Jesus' life and death are what makes reconciliation with God available, and that trusting him is how a person receives it.

The love was demonstrated before you cleaned up

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. — Romans 5:8

Paul wrote this in a letter to Christians in Rome. The Christian read is that God's love was not earned by getting your life together first. It was shown specifically toward people who had not — and the mechanism of it was Jesus' execution. The tradition has treated this as evidence that the love is not conditional on being lovable.

The love is not something you had to start

We love because he first loved us. — 1 John 4:19

John again. The sequence matters. The Christian claim is that the capacity to love — real love, of the kind described in the definition passage above — is a response to being loved first, not a native ability people generate on their own.

There is nothing that separates you from God's love, once it has reached you

For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. — Romans 8:38-39

Paul, in Romans. The list is exhaustive on purpose. The Christian tradition has read this as one of the strongest claims about God's love in the Bible — that once it has hold of a person, nothing available to the universe can pry it loose. Not the person's own failure, not death, not any other force.

The pattern of love Jesus set

My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends. — John 15:12-13

According to the gospel of John, Jesus said this the night before he was executed. The Christian tradition has held this line up as the standard — love that lays itself down for the sake of another. Not a feeling, but a stance the tradition claims was demonstrated in what happened to Jesus the next day.

A prayer to know love that is bigger than knowing it

And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord's holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge — that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. — Ephesians 3:17-19

Paul wrote this in a letter to Christians in the city of Ephesus. The construction is deliberately paradoxical — knowing a love that is bigger than knowing. The Christian tradition has read this as a picture of how people actually come to trust that they are loved: not by understanding it all at once, but by being rooted in it over time until it exceeds what could be understood.

Love as unstoppable

Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot sweep it away. — Song of Songs 8:6-7

This is from Song of Songs, a book in the Old Testament that is a long love poem. It is often read at weddings. The Christian tradition has read the poem both as a picture of human love at its best and as a picture of God's love for his people — love strong enough to survive what death and floodwaters cannot break.

Love, in practice, covers a lot

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. — 1 Peter 4:8

Peter, one of Jesus' closest followers, writing to scattered Christians. The Christian tradition has read this as a practical note about what love does in a household, a friendship, a marriage — it holds people through the many failures they will accumulate, without keeping the record.

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Where these come from in the Bible

• 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 — Paul's definition of love
• 1 John 4:7-8 — "God is love"
• John 3:16 — God's love, expressed by sending Jesus
• Romans 5:8 — love shown while people were still failing
• 1 John 4:19 — "we love because he first loved us"
• Romans 8:38-39 — nothing separates from the love of God
• John 15:12-13 — greater love: laying one's life down
• Ephesians 3:17-19 — knowing a love that surpasses knowledge
• Song of Songs 8:6-7 — love as strong as death
• 1 Peter 4:8 — love covers a multitude of failures